tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2920527740912786210.post1981230494704606105..comments2023-05-16T08:40:13.224-04:00Comments on Overcoming Myself: Stepping Out in FaithLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12184554994029457530noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2920527740912786210.post-72815655554663473702012-12-22T07:58:45.849-05:002012-12-22T07:58:45.849-05:00Um...you clearly have not opened yourself up to ad...Um...you clearly have not opened yourself up to adoption and have not laid everything in your life down, sacrificing it all, for a hurting child. Many, many children are returned to foster care, because the adoptive families are not able to handle the multitude of issues that these broken children bring with them. Most are not only broken by the circumstances of their birth home, but also by our broken, failing foster care system. When adoptive parents reach out for help the supposed support services are no where to be found. And, if you are referring to the adoption subsidy, you do realize that it is less than what I would pay to put a child in daycare. On average, $100 a week. That does not even cover the expenses of raising a child. Nor is it supposed to. It is only meant to supplement, but parents with children that have mood disorders, FAS, etc...and especially reactive attachment disorders cannot even begin to touch the expenses incurred with the amount given.<br /><br />What is remarkable is that Lisa and Scott have not returned either child to the foster care system. When pressed against the wall parents often see that as the only way, primarily to protect the other children in their home, but instead they turn to GOD and trust Him to meet every need. They love their children, regardless of how they entered into the family, wholeheartedly and they have done an amazing job with every one of them.<br /><br />I am glad for Lisa, her openness and honesty about this side of adoption. Every child deserves to be loved, but our system is set up to fail the families willing to step in and to do just that. <br /><br />I've talked with many adoption workers and only one has ever expressed that he might adopt. That is because of his love for Christ, regardless of his knowledge of how difficult it is. Every other one has become nervous and found ways to side step that question, because they get paid for every child they adopt out. They know that the system is broken and that no help is available. The book that they hand parents on post adoption resources is a joke...they don't really fulfill what they promise. No, most adoption workers know that adopting foster children is more difficult than parents could ever imagine, but they don't generally share that truth to equip parents. To them this isn't as much about the child as it is about the dollar...and the ultimate victims of the failings of the system are the original victims...the children.<br /><br />Now, when you adopt foster care children and love them like Scott and Lisa...when you lay down your own needs, wants, life for them and fall upon your knees every day in prayer for them...then even the most terrible circumstances are outweighed by the sweet moments of hope that peak through and the ever so small baby steps forward to healing. With God all things are possible...including the funding for a program that can help their hurting son.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2920527740912786210.post-85167686212191935662012-12-09T10:18:39.575-05:002012-12-09T10:18:39.575-05:00Thank you for sharing your story. Despite the hear...Thank you for sharing your story. Despite the heartache it produces in me, it has been so encouraging to me as I struggle with these very issues of relinquishing the idea of control as I care for my 23 month old little girl and eight-week-old son, and pray about the possibility of adopting siblings in the future. I am so thankful that God has promised to care for you and provide for you according to the riches of his glory in Jesus. I am praying for you right now as I type. em and edhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07752470869956922270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2920527740912786210.post-52423532120724624722012-12-08T23:35:31.900-05:002012-12-08T23:35:31.900-05:00I think your title is your answer to your own ques...I think your title is your answer to your own question. Lifting you up right now for the peace of God to be upon you as your dealing w/ all of this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2920527740912786210.post-66057656012979525182012-12-08T16:23:26.925-05:002012-12-08T16:23:26.925-05:00It is totally irresponsible to sign a paper, sayin...It is totally irresponsible to sign a paper, saying you will pay these military-style school fees for a YEAR, when you cannot afford to do so.<br /><br />That's not stepping out in faith - it's irresponsible. You love your son, you want your son to have the best chance of success... but aren't willing to put a penny of your own towards it. If you loved your son, you'd pay the fees.<br /> <br />Hopefully a supernatural being will help you out with the cash. Would you sign a lease on an apartment if you knew you didn't have the money to pay the rent each month? Would sign a contract to lease a car for several years if you had no way of paying it? What on earth makes you feel entitled to sign a contract you can't afford?<br /><br />By all means, get help for YOUR son who is YOUR responsibility. Don't you have an emergency fund? Decent health insurance? You adopted the boy from foster care -- do you not receive or have access to adoption support monies?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com